God Help You With Your New Relationship
We corresponded and talked on the phone for about 12 weeks before we married. She lived in another state from where I lived, so I decided to move there for a new start. We have been married two years now and are very happy. I would not suggest this course of action for everyone, but in my case, the Lord put a rush on the relationship because of the needs of both of us. We put God at the forefront of our relationship and it was amazing how we got along from the very beginning.
As with normal dating, don’t go into the romantic part right away. Get to know each other as friends first and let the relationship develop before you talk about romance. Ask questions of each other so you can rightly judge temperament and other factors that will be important if you marry. Watch how the person reacts in different situations, and be close to God so you can be guided by His wisdom.
One advantage we had online was being able to talk about things through email and phone calls without first seeing each other. This helped us concentrate on the relationship between us. I came to visit her and her family for two weeks, staying in a motel during this time. I wanted plenty of time to evaluate the situation before I made the step into marriage.As it happened, we married before I went back home again following the visit. The Lord opened all the doors for us to get married while I was there.
The important thing is to be open to the idea of meeting online even if you don’t marry someone that way. God uses a different approach with each person, but you won’t be able to know this if you are prejudiced against it. You need to have your eyes wide open whether you meet online or in person, but God will show you if you are trying to follow His will in the matter.
God cares about your loneliness and all the other things in your life, big or small. He cares about every detail of your life. You may not marry someone after knowing them only twelve weeks online, but God will guide you if you are open to what He wants for your life.
Be careful what you put in your online profile so you don’t attract the wrong kinds of people. I had blindness and epilepsy, so I put all that upfront in the profile so it could sift out people who were not right for me. It is a lot easier this way than waiting until later to tell someone.
Talk about romance and all that goes with it after you get to know someone for a while. There are free sites out there for Christians if you want to look for them, but still be careful and let God lead you. Not every person who says they are a Christian, really is. And not every Christian you meet is the right one to marry.
Find out what kind of “baggage” they are carrying around like grief, resentment, personality quirks etc. Be sensitive to voice changes that can denote lying. Don’t be afraid of the process, but be wise. The Bible tells us to be “wise as a serpent and gentle as a dove”.
God loves you, and wants what is best for you, so don’t settle for the wrong kind of person just because they are there and someone else is not. God wants better for you than that.
In the meantime before you get into a relationship of any kind, ask God to show you things in your life that need changing, then allow God to change them. Keep a humble heart before God and obey what He shows you. The process will go a lot faster if you are humble than if you are stubborn and willful.
God bless you as you seek a godly relationship with someone online or in person. Let God go before you and bless you with the right person for you. He is always faithful when we open our hearts to His leading.
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